THE PROMOTE LOVE MOVEMENT: PHASE 1
Every story has a backstory. Every thing in my life does. If you’re not with me for a day – sometimes even an hour – when we reunite I will most definitely have a story to tell you! So this Promote Love Movement… what is it? Well, in reality, only a handful of you have asked. But so many of you have supported it just because of those two words that put a powerful message out into the world!
Go grab a cup of coffee/tea/whatever, sit back and let me tell you a story; it’s going to be a long one, but stick with me. This is the story of a little girl who had a knack for adventures & sharing stories. That little girl was me.
I was a happy kid. I entertained myself and found joy in the smallest of things. I had happy eyes and you could always tell there was a story there just waiting to be told. As kids, most of us are fearless. We see the good in the world, we crave experience and we want to feel protected and loved. What we experience in our childhood shapes us for the rest of our lives. We are taught how to approach people, how to treat them, how to love them, or how to hate them. I have parents who taught me to love people and treat them how I would want to be treated. This will stick with me until the day I die. I was so fascinated by people growing up. My mom always likes to tell the story of when I was 3 years old and saw a waiter with a hearing aid. I politely asked “what’s that behind your ear?” He knelt down and explained it to me.
Growing up, I was an avid people watcher. I tried to analyze them and wanted to know WHY. What made them tick, how they felt when they were happy or sad, why certain people were made to feel like outsiders and what made other people feel superior. As I got older, I realized the rules of how you treat people started to shift. We are wired to love people but sometimes people could hate what others would do or treat them differently if they were “different” from them.
I adapted to this new way of thinking as I got a little older, but something always felt off. If we were supposed to love everyone and treat them like we would want to be treated, why were we getting awkward and avoiding people who were different? The problem with this way of “loving” was that it excludes people and makes them feel othered, and lesser than. All I knew was I wanted to be friends with the people who were sad in the corner. I never wanted anyone to experience loneliness and rejection. I wanted to know everyone’s story that I encountered. I wanted to document it. I wanted to soak it all in and show people that love is the only true answer.
We are all we have, and every human being deserves to be loved. Not “I love you….but” Not simply tolerated or looked down upon. I’ve experience this, and I don’t wish it on anyone. When I came out in 2007, I lost a lot of friends, heard a whole lot of hateful things from "friends, family and even strangers… that affected me to my core, I had to deal with a majority of it alone. You can read more on that HERE if you’d like.
As a teenager and adult, I was visiting very dark places in my mind and heart, but no one could tell. I constantly felt like I was never good enough no matter how much effort I put into anything. No matter how much I succeeded. No matter how many people I loved, or how many said they loved me. I would never deserve love because I began to view myself as “innately flawed.”
I finally found my place in this world by being true to myself. I learned to love myself, to listen to everyone, love everyone, because we are human beings and we deserve all good things. Once I started doing this, I quit my job, moved away from all things I knew, and started a business grounded in what I have always felt passionate about: love and storytelling. I met strangers far and wide, captured them with my camera, and shared their stories. I did this for years and some stories spread around the world, and yet I always knew there was something more. I could take this and run with it and remind the world to promote love with me. If you are feeling low I encourage you to take that negative energy, acknowledge it, work with it and try to redirect it to create something positive. That is the way I have been able to get through the low points. When your life and your career are grounded in love, you will succeed. And now, here we are. Tell me your story.
How have you promoted love today within your community? How are you going to view and treat others differently? How are you going to treat yourself differently? Love is all we have. We’re all we have. Together we have the power to create, make a difference and make this world a happier place for all mankind. All things love. GO PROMOTE THE LOVE!
1. Upload a picture to Instagram of you promoting love in any form. Whether it be volunteering, talking to a stranger, a story about how you do what you love in your career or a love story of you and your significant other. Hashtag #PromoteLove and tag out Instagram account.
2. Spread the word using the Promote Love shirts/stickers.
3. Every Friday 1 story will be featured with a Q&A and an image.
4. A portion of all proceeds will be donated to a charity of the month. Together we can Promote Love one story at a time… www.PromoteLoveMovement.com If you’re in Dallas: please stop by Bullzerk on May 7th for the Promote Love Launch Party. To purchase Promote Love shirts click HERE.
“I finally found my place in this world by being true to myself. I learned to be myself, to listen & LOVE everyone. I quit my job and started a business grounded in love and storytelling.”
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